Cold War - It's meaning in human life.

When you hear the word "Cold War" the first things that flash across anyone's mind will be one among the following. Soviet Russia, United States of America and its leaders, arms race followed by that and the technological advanceson each sides. If you are one among those who studied history, then you may also remember the War in Afghanistan, in Eastern Europe and the fall of Communist regime in Europe and Russia. For common people, any change either political or socialtakes their life for a ride at least emotionally. For instance, the fall of the current systems in those countries might have led to job loss, poverty, loss of loved ones and so on and on. I wont be able to do any justice in recountingthe hardships they have gone through. I can list a hundred of them still I am sure I will miss another thousand. So I am leaving that to your imagination and exploration.

At the same time, for people in West especially in United Sates, the end of Cold War is a celebration. Its there victory over the world or its this victory that put them ahead of all nations. This also has some good and bad influence over the common people in United States- which I am sure they might have found difficult to comprehend at-least for some time. Since they are part of the winning team, these changes are sweet and easy to chew.

Being social animals humans only understand what is happening in their life towards the end or when these changes are most active. I am sure this was the case with the people of Cold war era as well. I assume this was much true for the people on the losing side. Once you start losing some thing, people used to imbibe a self destructing personality, which in-turn kills their self confidence and aids in their destruction. As the proverb says You are your first and foremost enemy for most of the time than others.

Now, have this history in your back of mind and look at each human life today. You can very well see that every individual is going through Cold War in their day to day life. Some may be in Winning side and most of them may be in the losing side. The degree of failure may not be highly visible in their life, but its true that it is happening. If you cant make this out in your life, either you dont have the insight to see things clearly or you are deliberately ignore thesefailures. This deliberate behavior is good and that is one thing most of the positive living writers urge you to do. The simple principle here is to achieve more and overshadow the effect caused by you failures. I am also a proponent of this idea. As the universal law states, you cant gain any thing with out loosing some thing. The important point here is to work effectively and efficiently and make the maximum out of things which you are loosing. There are some things which you cant afford to loose. You may gain a lot by losing that, but it will hurt your ego so much and may be disappoint you verybadly. There are no effective theories right now how to handle this situation. In my opinion, there are two ways to handle this. Not get your ego hurt or dont mind what your ego is go by what is happening. For me my egos are the one which took me to greater heights. I mean, I will work and strive hard not to get my ego hurt in any way. Other way is to, take it lightly. I know and I am sure this has profound influence on the relationships you have with others and also in your day to day life. But better dont show those feelings in front of others, because that is kind of a self destructing personality which you imbibe after your ego being hurt. Dont allow this to overcome your personality. May be you can now take a break from what you are doing like having a vacation or something elsewhich gives you more pleasant experience that what you are doing right now. Or else do some thing which you are sure to win. This will help you to progress to a winning side from a losing side.

Is this world is even and all humans are equal? I can give you a very blind answer to this question. The answer is Big No. The reason for this is most people want to be in the winning side and most of their decision will be biased and subjective to their personal gains. The more you put another person in to winning side, the more he will like you. There is no need to substantiate this with facts or figures, because that is going to be a futile exercise. Whether you agree or not, this is the fact which I have seen in every humans life. So what you have to do as a human? Do some thing wrong and please others? Not at all. Most of the times you can try to agree with others rather than going for a confrontation. In worst cases, you can be out of the scene, that way you are not part of this process. I practiced both for some time but cant do this always. Sometimes, your ego over comes your thoughts. This is what you have to get rid of in your life - which needs patience, exercise and some kind of motivation to do. But careful thought and having this discussion in your back of mindwill help you to realize that the world is not uniform and not objective as you think. This will help you to be in the winning side. Practice what is being said in religious text especially what is being told in Bible. Feed those who persecuteyou and give drink to your enemies". This is quiet difficult to be practiced in real life. But striving for this will help you to be in the winning side. Next step is to being diplomatic in what ever ways you can with out giving up your ideals and practices. Also; dont try to hurt your ego in any way. Many will overtake you in this subjective world, many will make fun of you, many of your achievements will go unnoticed but at the end you will be victories no matter how subjective this world is. May not be in the place you are right now, may be in a different stage. Subjectivity will always turn around like day and night. But good mans thoughts cant be keptinside a jar with a lid. The lid of subjectivity will open at some point and you will win this world with the power of losing subjective elements. The forces of subjective nature will always be in War - Cold War, with the objective forces and the facts of the world. Subjective forces will show some gains in short term, but will definitely be overcome by the objective forces. The most important point you have to look for is, how much we can afford to loose, when the subjectivity is in power. The span of time they are going to be in power will vary from time to time. In corporate world, where profits are the only concern, subjectivity used to overcome other factors for 90% of the time. But in personal life this has a balance of 50% each. So when you are part of cold war, your position will depend of where you are. Its ideal to be out of the sight of subjective forces at your work, since business is always subjective. Business doesnt exist with out profits and profits are the one which I have seen in this world which is totally subjective.

As we move on; May the almighty help you to protect your personalities and ego from the subjectivity of this world. This is my earnest expectation for you - my friend.

Shibu Raj